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The Advice Addiction

Some people get addicted to advice.

They think they can’t move forwards without checking it out with someone else. They’re looking for the ‘right answer’ or the ‘right’ thing to do in a particular situation. They start asking around. They get advice from those they trust.

There is nothing inherently wrong with getting advice. In fact sometimes it’s a very sensible and helpful thing to do. If I need to know something about my accounts, I call my accountant and with medical matters, I visit my GP.  But Advice Addiction is different. It’s a condition whereby a person doesn’t trust in their own wisdom. You might also call it common sense, sixth sense, intuition, instinct, gut feeling.

Where seeking advice becomes a problem is when it stifles your ability to connect with your own instincts or wisdom.

You know what instinct feels like. It’s that sense of ‘knowing’. It doesn’t always seem rational. You might describe it as having a strong ‘gut feeling’ about something. And when you trust it, inevitably things work out.

You’ve probably had an experience of asking someone for advice about something. Perhaps you have several options available to you and you’re not sure which way to go. What you’re seems sensible. It may even be quite compelling, but for some reason it doesn’t ‘feel right’. It doesn’t fit you. You can’t necessarily explain why, but you just know. This is a great example of how your instincts are always guiding you.

If you put too much importance on ‘other people’s great advice’ you are probably limiting what’s possible for yourself. And there is an unlimited supply of good advice in the form of ‘the next killer business strategy’, a tried and tested tactic, or just our well intentioned friends and colleagues with their opinions and ideas.

In reality, there is no greater advice than the loud whisper of our own wisdom. When we learn to trust that, we become our own best advisor.

“The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” Norman Schwarzkopf

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